It's not you

We all are home now, listening, and talking to our family members for more than a month. In this period we came to know about our family so well that some of their activities made us laugh and some irritated also. At the same time, we also came to know about the rising number of domestic violence, people filing for divorce, and breaking their longterm relationships.
                                 Marianne Hester a Bristol University sociologist who studies abusive relationships said that domestic violence goes up whenever families spend more time together.

What's the reason

• As human beings irrespective of our sex, we need attention. The problem starts when we become an attention seeker. In a simple way, for our own happiness turning to the people. And it can be in any form like if someone said good about us, someone praises us, we feel better but, in the absence of that, we become a vacuum. And just to keep the track we push the people.
• Living in the same place for a long time without going out (especially in this pandemic world) creates anxiety and even a single fault and an argument has the capacity to fuel the person.
• In this world, we live with rules and regulations. It can be of many forms, we have made a to-do list for each other like, you have to do this and that, don't talk to that person, lose your weight, behave yourself. Love becomes conditional, which ultimately sucks the energy of a person next to a so-called adviser.
• We want a grip on the people which is in form like, do what I say. 

       Why do they do that?  I don't have an absolute reason for this. But the simple one can be like we want the person as a whole like a loaf of bread rather than freeing them.

• Lack of self-awareness is the major problem causing reason according to me. We are not aware of our capabilities and their search used to be always outside.

What should be practiced

• Be your own healer

       Always look inside, I mean to say focus on yourself. The more you know yourself, the more you become aware of who you are and, what you want. That changes everything.

• Do not hold 

    Never hold the person you are attached with or you are in love with. Let them go. Let them do whatever they want to. Boundaries kill.

• Provide space

      We all need space, our own private space. Even in this crowded world, we need this.

• Respect with diversity

    We all are different so do our opinions. So it's important to value them. Value their choices and value their thoughts.

• Fill yourself first

  Just like you can't pour water from the empty bottle in the same way you can't pour love from a dry heart.

    Relationships are made by people and people by their thoughts so be aware of what you are thinking. Just be you and accept each other as they are. 

(These are my personal views I would love to hear yours.)

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