MARRIAGE, A SOLUTION?

Those are lucky people who enjoyed the marriage ceremony early this year. The thing I missed this year the most is getting ready for a wedding. As in the lack of the glitters around me I came to know about marriage as a solution.Solution for what? And what's the problem?

I still don't know the problem which gets solved by getting married. 

Is marriage important?

For the sake of living, absolutely not because marriage is not oxygen. People can survive without marriage. But here is a twist, if people want the materialistic pleasure of this world they have to marry, as there is no concept of partners when it comes to our law. As our law accept husbands and wives. 

Which kind of solution I am talking about?

Let's first have a bite of the so-called problem. ( It's about both sexes) As I came to know that if a person is not productive, in a sense not economically independent, they should marry as there is 90% of chances that their partners will make them economically independent. As the thesis illustrates that when you get the pressure you work well. So is the thesis tried to say that marriage is a kind of pressure?

Everything becomes pressure when you are not ready mentally. So it applies to marriage also. And especially when you are running out of money and getting married, is pressure. As a first step marriage is a money-consuming process.

Now in the second scenario, marriage becomes a choice when you are economically independent. But being independent doesn't mean that it abolishes the first step of the marriage. It just simply means that people are ready to spend as then the ball is in their court.

Feel free to put your definition of marriage in the comment below.

Look within

 Whenever we share something very personal thought and incident with someone we expect them not to share this with anyone and above that we expect, to feel the same way as they have felt it and keep this in their heart in the way they have taken care of it. Is it ok? Is it normal?

I used to think in the same way, in fact, many of the time I even try to hold the person in my life just because they know something about my life, and now how can they leave?

LET'S NOT HOLD ANYONE

When we hold the people in our life we develop an expectation. And let me tell you that expectation is the real energy vampire in our life. According to Dandapani, there are 3 things in our life which consume our energy and they are people, things, and the past. Let's drop this topic for another blog, presently focus should be on expectation. 

It's very difficult to not expect from the people. We are humans, social animals and, we need people. It's like to be around a plate full of food and not salivating. I know it's difficult but obviously not impossible. It requires a level of dedication not to think on the negative side and just to be focused.

In the billions on identification, we have billions of ideas and billions of ways to achieve our goal which is presently the expectation. Before thinking about the solution let's think about who you are? And that's going to help to find the solution to all your life problems. The more we look within the more we find the world peaceful and the better place to live in. 

Find out who are you? What you want? And have crystal clear ideas and opinions. Once you get this it will be easier for you to let go of the people who are not made to stay.

                                                                    LOOK WITHIN

A MESS

We are living in a world where everything has a price. The way of paying can be different but, everything has a price. From childhood, we were provided with whatever we needed without telling the price, but when the child enters the adolescent they are told that everything has a price. Now the situation is when the child was not taught how to value things till the age of 13 or maybe 15. How can one suddenly know the value of the things in their teenage? 

Then there is unconditional love. Absolutely by our parents. They are the perfect mess cleaners of ours. No one is going to clean your mess as cleanly as your parents and most importantly their forgiveness. Those who are kept well in their cocoon don't like their cocoon and those without the cocoon need it badly. The point is we don't like where are we now. We always chase happiness we don't bother to find it out hidden inside us. 

So once we are out of a cocoon and placed in this world of conditions we get into trouble. we blame our parents for not taking care of us well when we were growing up. 

Today I was going through one of the newsletters of Paulo Cohelo in which he mentioned a quote of present Dalia Lama which says that when we are young and old we need love and in between that when we are emotionally independent we don't bother about it. So isn't it the responsibility to give love to others when we independent emotionally?

Yesterday I was reading an article in THE HINDU written by Rohit Dhankar in which he talked about the NGOs' role in education. By reading that, the first thought that hit my brain is it's not the students who didn't qualify the exams are always wrong it's something about the system that we are living in. we need a change   Coupling the same thing with the DU cutoff list which touches 100 this year and now the boy scoring 720/720 in NEET.

Well to blame it's a good point that I am pointing towards the education system for failure but we need a change. I need a change. 

One more complicated thing marks gained in the exams are not equal the knowledge, and this is my personal experience. Now the one question is do marks matter? I have both answers. Yes, it matters when your carrier decided by you is going to fall on the rack of the mark.

NO, it's not important when your carrier decided by you is not on that track. 

What's important then? 

As per my information and the knowledge only you are important, your thoughts are important. Your reaction is important. Your action is important. Invest wisely in yourself. 

फूलों वाला पेड़

फूलों वाले पेड़ 

के नीचे बैठ के 

दो कपड़ें वाले रिश्तो को

वो प्यार के धागों से

सिल रही थी

बीच मे जब कभी धागे

अटक जा रहे थे

तो वो बड़े शान्ति से

उसे अपने उंगलियों

पे ले, सुलझाती थी

पर धागे इतने

ढिठ हुआ करते थे कि

फसते ही जाते थे

फिर भी उसने गुस्से

मे आकर कभी धागा तोडा़ नहीं

कल उसने वो चादर

उसी फूल वाले पेड़ के 

नीचे बिछाया था

लोगों ने उसपे बने फूलो

को सराहा, उसके रंगों की तारीफ़ की

बीच के सिले धागे 

पेड़ पे लगे फूलों को

निहार रहे थे। 

चल रे मन

 अंधेरी रात में 

तारों की चादर ओढे

आंसमा के एक छोर से 

दुसरे छोर को बेवजह ढूंढने 

की कोशिश करते हुए

हवाओं को देखने की

लालसा लिये

उनके अतरंगी से रंग

उभारते हुए

उनकी ही गुदगुदी मे

खो जाने की एक ख्वाहिश लिए

चल रे मन कहीं दूर चलते हैं

What is it

Why the world is so large

Why can't it be like a tiny house 

 Roof studded with stars 

Moon taking the corner seat and 

The sun opposite corner

They can play hide and seek

In a room they don't need to explore the whole universe

But wait,

What is the Universe?

Full of stars, clouds, dust, expanding

What is it?

Why there are so many planets and we living

on one and exploring the whole?

Why we are living?

What's the point of living

Waking up with a body 

Changing the clothes

Going from one point to another

Just chasing something

What is something?

What is it?